need some help

[echo78]

hello all
i have a friend who sister also hears voices. i was woundering if any one can help me she asked me some questions but i dont know how to answer things as every one is diffrent.

(qoute my friend
What can others around you do to help calm the voices? (I'd really like to know for next time with my sis.) Her's are triggered by music, radio and television... so I tried to avoid all three and then all it took was a sign on a building and she was battling the voices and not hearing me, ya know?

I wondered if I went about it all backwards... trying to avoid the voices and what triggered them. It made sense to me that if it's there... you should kinda 'talk back' to it and acknowledge it is there, but then go on with living. Like maybe with my sis... say, hey voices I know there is music playing here, but you are safe and with people who love you.

Would something like that help, do you think? end of qoute)

thanks for taking the time out for her as she really wants to understand her sister and help her.
Echo xxxx

[sara]

hmm - I think everyone is different - spo may be different things work for different people, and different peopple on the site may be able to suggest things.

Some peopel might find it helpful to reduce the amount of time spent doing things which trigger the voices, or others might find it helpful to continue doing what they choose and just notice "oh, of course, here we go again, the voices come when I do this, but I won't let them stop me". Just being able to preduict when they are worse can be helpful in itself.

supporting the person who hears voices to find their own preferred coping strategy, whatever works best for them may be helpful - could try out things on the site. has she seen the site?

but also important for her to get her own support too.

what do others rthink?

[Diana]

I have a relative who hears voices. It is sooooo hard!
Tell your friend she must look after herself too. She can support her sisyer when shes strong and OK herself. Sounds like she has a good friend in you. Can she ask her sister hw best she can help her?

[echo78]

hi there Diana,
Can she ask her sister hw best she can help her?
i will ask her and i try my best to help her undersatnd the voices but she finds it hard to expect this in her sister. which i can understand i have know this friend for about three years though email.
any way thanks for the replay
hug
echo xxx

[Eirigh-suas]

(I'm the friend Echo speaks about.)

Hey Em! :)

I wanted to let you know I had checked out this site and will come back and do more reading when I have more time.

I really appreciate all the help you have given me and how you asked here as well.

Spoke to my Sis again today. It's gotta get better... as I can't imagine it getting any worse. This time it was mostly paranoia rather than the voices. The holidays are always rough.

Wish we had a better mental health care system here in America. I'm tempted to put her on a plane and tell them she's a Brit.

Thanks for everything!

Love, =) Lisa

[echo78]

:D Eirigh-suas :D
nice to see ya again sweet heart. I glad you fined this place ok. :)

sara am sorry i did not see your post please for give me. thanks for the replay.

hugs
echo xxxx